The 10 Seduction Commandments
After years of study and research, we have compiled the best of the best in the realm of seduction. Some of these tips seem basic…and they are. That is the reason why they work. It is a matter of pulling them all together at the right time. In fact, the time is…
Seduction Commandment #1
To make your lover feel special, do something special
When you’re trying to impress a woman, never utter these words at the cusp of an evening: “So, what do you feel like doing?” A true Casanova takes charge. He has a plan. To devise a memorable one, imagine that you’re proposing. What would you do to make the night so special she couldn’t possibly say no?
Then arrange it (minus the ring and bent-knee thing, of course). After all, you are proposing–only it’s something far more enticing than marriage. Women are very appreciative of any kind of effort.
Seduction Commandment #2
Give your full attention
Create an intimate atmosphere whenever you can. Invite her to dinner at your place, reserve a cozy table at a fine restaurant, encourage her to slip away from the party for a starlit stroll….Continually be searching for moments in the evening where you both can linger and connect. You can show no greater compliment on a woman than your full attention.
Seduction Commandment #3
Let her admire you admiring her
Let her see the effects of her beauty and charm reflected in you. Every now and then, look at her appreciatively and smile. At opportune times, compliment her–choosing a trait other than the obvious. For instance, pretty women are used to being told they’re pretty. That kind of compliment has little effect. But tell a pretty woman that she’s smart, and you often win her heart. There’s a magical quality to a man’s open, insightful admiration that women find equally enchanting.
Seduction Commandment #4
Ask her what she thinks.
If you want women to find you fascinating…find them fascinating. The minute you start thinking of the woman as an object, the instant you become more interested in yourself than in finding out about her, then you’re starting to lose. It’s not difficult to get a woman to talk about themselves. Just ask open-ended questions and shut up. But you have to be sincere about it. Touch her heart and she will take you were you want to go.
Seduction Commandment #5
After the first sampling of something sinful, it becomes much easier to sin again. Provide your lady with something decadent. This could be a single chocolate truffle (gift-wrapped) or an ice-cream sundae that the two of you share. Indulgence is the removal of a single brick that significantly weakens the temple.
Seduction Commandment #6
Appeal to all her senses.
Create an atmosphere of lavishness and luxury, so her indulgence will feel less guilty. Be attentive to every one of your mate’s five senses.
Play background music, touch the small of her back to guide her, make eye contact, give her a flute of champagne to sip, buy her a fresh flower to sniff….Think of each sense as a little engine you need to warm up. When all her senses are purring, she will be, too.
Seduction Commandment #7
Savor the anticipation.
Foreplay doesn’t happen only in the bedroom 60 seconds before intercourse. It’s organic. It encompasses the entire day. Slip a note into her purse confessing how much you’re looking forward to this date, or call her at work and tell her the same. When you meet, take her hands and softly kiss her lips. Most important: Allow the evening to progress at its own pace, remembering that neither of you has to be anywhere except together.
Seduction Commandment #8
Most food and drink can be sexually suggestive. Sex isn’t serious–it’s playtime for adults. Whether you’re dining at home or at a restaurant, choose something provocative the two of you can share. Put the plate between you and nibble. Eat with your fingers. Feed each other. Make it your goal to keep the evening lighthearted.
Seduction Commandment #9
If the evening isn’t going according to plan, abandon it. Be attuned to fate and go where it directs. The confidence and daring this shows is in itself seductive.
Seduction Commandment #10
Surprise her with a gift
Women love unexpected gifts. Make hers personal rather than trendy, small rather than large, silly rather than serious–something only she can appreciate. Make sure your gift shows a great deal of creativity and thoughtfulness. Most important, time your gift’s delivery for that critical point in the evening when there remains just one obvious way for her to show her gratitude.
Michael Ward, Fly Zones Staff Writer