“My schoolmates would make love to anything that moved,
but I never saw any reason to limit myself.”
The Rest and Control Technique
Take a break!
No, not now, but during sex. It may seem over simplistic at first, but it works. Follow me on this…
Most men and women have two basic misconceptions about sex:
1) A man should have an orgasm every time he has sex
2) A man should not stop during sex until he has an or- gasm
Wrong on both counts. If you are having sex like it is a marathon and you have to reach the finish line…then you are running past the best parts of sex.
Taking a break during sex has several benefits
1) You save energy to keep going at it the next time.
2) You have time to relax which allows you to enjoy sex more.
3) Taking breaks helps you gain control of when you want to orgasm.
So what makes up a sex break? Glad you asked…
It is really up to you but here are a few thoughts to consider. A break can be anywhere from taking a few seconds to catch your breath to a couple of minutes to pull yourself together.
Most guys are concentrating so much on the orgasm that they miss the thrill of having sex. In fact, you do not have to ejaculate every time you have sex.
That may sound weird to some folks, but it is true. It is well documented that man’s ability to have multiple or- gasms (not ejaculations) is based on the premise that we do not need to ejaculate sperm to impregnate a woman every time we have sex.
Imagine your woman getting pregnant every time you had sex! That is about 30 extra babies too many.
So…back to the point.
Rest and Control!
Of course, this may take some getting used to. If you and your partners’ sexual experiences have all ended with you laying in a useless heap after ejaculating you will need to do some explaining to her.
Try to find each other’s pattern or rhythm. Do you need a two minute break and she needs a 5 minute break or is it the opposite? Be honest! Good sex is at stake here.
While taking a break you may worry about losing your erection. It is OK if you lose your erection. A little hand or oral stimulation from your partner will pick you right back up.
Your partner will be more than grateful when she sees how much longer and stronger you can have sex.