I understand the problems guys face when dealing with premature ejaculation. Sometimes the embarrassment of a “quick” performance can cause so much stress that we stop enjoying sex and start worrying about it.
This is where the real problems begin. Losing confidence in bed can lead to a downward spiral of doubt and stress. If you are on this path, then you need to really pay attention to what is said below.
With some time and practice, you will soon forget you ever had a problem. I want to talk to you about getting your confidence back now!
The Confidence Game
Really premature ejaculation is not something to feel too embarrassed about. If anything, it is a compliment to your partner. This person has got you so hot and turned on that you get excited and lose control.
That is not bad at all…
Imagine if you did not have an orgasm at all. How would that make your lover feel?
Of course this means that you are loosing out on some good times also. So here are some tips to get you mentally and physically back in the game.
I don’t just mean during the act, but mentally before hand. If you keep thinking you are going to have a problem, then you probably will. You must approach this situation with confidence. With some practice, you can figure this out and give her what she wants.
2) Try releasing before hand (no pun in- tended).
In high school, we called it DSB…Deadly Sperm Buildup. You are already so turned on, one touch and you are ready to explode. Go to the bathroom (or where ever) about an hour before you guys get together and masturbate.
Practice on your timing and this technique will help.
3) Breathe deep.
I’m serious! Really pay attention to your breathing during sex. Have you ever noticed that when you have an orgasm you are out of breath? Not breathing fully can lead to los- ing control of your orgasm.
4) Oh yeah, relax those muscles too.
I’m referring to those times when you start tightening your toes, legs, hands, etc. This is not a good thing. Too much pressure and you are going to pop.
5) Fake it!
I mean control your strokes when you have to. Instead of moving in and out in a direction that will make you come quickly, use your hands, lips, and every other body part to touch her.
That way she stays turned on and you have a chance to collect yourself and breathe.
6) Go to the bathroom!
Pressure in your bladder from the wine you had earlier can play against you. The difference between a full bladder and an empty one is about 3 to 15 minutes of sex.
Use these tips and you are on your way to a much better time in the sack.