How Foreplay Can Save Your Life
When I was a kid, I would visit my favorite cousin who had a fish tank. He had a huge Jack Dempsey which was a fighting fish that ate smaller fish. So we would go to the pet store to buy goldfish for the Jack to eat.
Watching the goldfish constantly avoiding the Jack in that tiny space made me wonder what that must feel like. Under stress all the time. Wondering when you where next. Seeing the guy in front of you get gobbled up almost randomly.
Then I grew up and found out exactly what that goldfish felt like. Managers that circled the cubicle just waiting for me to get out of line. Bills that came to eat holes in my wallet. Girlfriends who turned my phone into a virtual leash.
Yes…I felt the goldfish pain.
So what does that have to do with your sex life? Everything! The everyday mental and emotional stress that men feel is quite different than women. Stress creates cortisol and cortisol can cause your body to come crashing down.
Good Intentions…Bad Results
Although cortisol is known as the stress hormone it actually has good intentions. Small increases of cortisol have the positive effects of:
A quick burst of energy for survival reasons
Heightened memory functions
Lower sensitivity to pain
Helps maintain homeostasis in the body
So if you have to get across a familiar street before the oncoming traffic makes its way down…no need for an adrenaline rush. Cortisol will push more sugar into the bloodstream so you can make the sprint across the street with no problem.
However, if you are under constant stress then the cortisol will break down protein, bone and joint tissue to get at those sugar supplies to help you out. Unfortunately this help comes at a steep price over time…
Blood sugar imbalance
Decreased bone density
Decrease in muscle tissue
Higher blood pressure
Lowered immunity and slowed wound healing
In other words Cortisol takes that stress and wears your body down. Chronic illness. Faster aging. Death at a younger age.
Now The Good News About Foreplay
While stress management, yoga, journaling and meditation are great for relieving stress…they are still not as fun as sex. But of course the problem is that who wants to have sex when you are completely stressed out?
This is where the counter to Cortisol, Oxytocin, comes in. Oxytocin is known as the “bonding hormone” and to release it in your body quickly simply requires touch. This is why the human reaction to someone in distress is to give them a hug. But you don’t have to wait that long.
Women have more Oxytocin than men. This is for nurturing the young, labor pains and lactating. It is also the reason why women can stand 10 times more pain than men.
Without an abundance of Oxytocin for men, long bouts of low level stress just lets the Cortisol build and build. Men are designed for (and enjoy) high and relatively short levels of physical stress like football, basketball or soccer.
Fortunately foreplay can help in a number of areas because it simultaneously raises testosterone for erections and sexual stamina. It also lowers Cortisol which ironically increases the appetite for risky behavior.
While many guys think foreplay is something for the women and a waste of time, true sexual pros know that foreplay is really for the fellas. For the price of cuddling, getting teased, making out, erotic petting and kissing all over the place you get…
Constantly killing that daily Cortisol build with shots of Oxytocin and testosterone from foreplay will keep you living longer and cut down your trips to the doctor.
Share this with your lady and make plans for some life saving foreplay!