The 80 – 20 Rule of Sexual Performance For Women
In this episode we’re going to talk about the 80 20 rule of sexual performance for women. Men, we need to know this too, but ladies, pay attention to this. I’m going to break down what women need to know about this free way, yes I did say free, to boost your libido and make your entire life better. Yes, your entire life for free.
The easiest way to understand this is basically taking the [inaudible] tool. 80, 20 rule of sexual performance for women and juxtaposing it to the role for the [inaudible] role for men is pretty simple for men.
Eighty percent of our sexual performance is based on our physical ability as in we have an extra appendage that needs to be filled with blood in order for an erection happen to have sex. Twenty percent is mental. Uh, if a guy can’t get it up, then sex is just not going to work.
For women, we’re talking about the opposite. So eighty percent of a woman’s sexual performance typically is mental. Twenty percent is physical because as a woman in terms of sexual performance, as long as there’s a want to have sex and lubrication, sex can happen.
Libido & The 80%
So there is that difference. If a woman’s eighty percent doesn’t want to have sex, it will override that 20 percent pretty quickly. So that gives you a quick look at that difference between men and women when it comes to the 80 20 rule of sexual performance.
So, you know, we’ll have, if you’re physically healthy as a woman, if you’re lubrication, everything is working, but you don’t have the desire, the libido, you just don’t even think about sex, don’t want to have sex is just sort of becoming an irritant and your life.
And there is a reason for that. And I’m will break down exactly what that is. And is your brain on stress. This is another interesting thing about the difference between men and women is that the hemispheres of our brains are a for men, they’re further apart than it is for women. In other words, the two hemispheres of the brain for women are closer together in a house with communications, the synopsis to the firing of a electric electrons and the chemicals in your brain.
They go back and forth between the two faster. And so women are therefore thinking about a lot of things more often than men. Men, we had that little gap. That gap is necessary for us to do things. A simple example, the gap is there for, for us to do things that are uncomfortable. A simple example is, um, what you would typically expect that obviously there’s going to be differences, but what you would typically expect if a guy and women are walking down that dark alley and somebody jumps out and says, I’m going to kill you.
Well, communications woman screams. Let everybody know, hey, pay attention. He has to go to that space of like, this is uncomfortable, you know, pretend like go baby. And if you’d go ahead and get out to the car and call an ambulance and tell him to come pick this fool up, that’s what we’re saying. What we really are is like, God, you know, but we don’t have that capacity.
We’re expected to be uncomfortable and take care of that situation. So that goes into our sexual health, especially for women in terms of thinking constantly. If you’re thinking constantly about, this is going on, this going on the child over here, my uncle, my grandmother, um, my children, where’s my best friend? Or She’s having an issue. All those things, if they’re going on in your mind constantly, you’re not going to want to have sex because the process of having sex requires that you be in the presence for good sex.
The best sex is when two people are in the present. They’re enjoying just one thing. Having sex. It is difficult to enjoy sex when you’re. Part of it is being in the present. When you’re still thinking about other things. If you’re thinking about sex, then it’s like, oh yeah, hey, this is going on that I gotta pick this up.
Meditate Your Way To Better Sex
Did all those different things are going to interfere with your ability to enjoy yourself. Therefore, sex is no longer becomes pleasurable. It becomes a chore. You fix that. This is the easy way. Meditate. Yes, you have to meditate and we, when you talk about meditation, unfortunately people think, OK, I can buy this book and I have to listen to this guru and have to sit in his position as to do this. That, uh, I heard something from a Buddhist monk who was a professional on meditation.
I mean, just what he does for a living. He meditates and he says, all of that is unnecessary. Whenever you just focus on your breath, your breath going in and your breath going out, just your breath. Nothing else. That’s the meditation.
You could do a meditation and one second, 10 seconds, 10 minutes, 20 minutes. I meditate 20 minutes every morning. And what that does, when you just focus on your breathing, that’s all we need. When you’re just focusing on your breathing, you’re no longer thinking about all these different things.
Your brain now has a baseline. It has time to figure things out. It cannot figure things out while you’re talking. It’s sort of like a, your brain is a supercomputer and you keep going up to the supercomputer saying stupid things to it. Your body is stressed because you’re worried about something that hasn’t happened may not happen, and for the most part, some of the things that have already happened that no longer you need to think about it anymore, but because you haven’t given your brain the room to release these things, it just sticks around and it sticks around all the time.
So just like if you’re stressed, if I walked up and put a gun in your face and said, tell me your name right now. Well obviously you know your name, but under that level of stress, your first answer would be like, what’s your name? Why are you pointing a gun at me? Unfocus.
That’s the whole point of meditating. If you’re going through your life in that stress mode, you’re going to be making the wrong decisions. Answers that should be simple. You’re going to complicate is just tough. So you have to meditate.
Don’t Stress The Sex
Take the time. Just hop on youtube, you can see videos, you can see how other people do what you can get in, get it into it as deeply as possible, but the point is, the more you meditate, the less stress debts in your life, the less stress in your life. Just from a chemical standpoint, a stress causes cortisol to happen in your body. Cortisol reduces testosterone, testosterone’s Whitney, what is needed by both men and women in order to have sex.
All of that to say if you want to have a better sex life for both men and women, but especially for women, you have to meditate is no getting around this. There’s no magic pill for this. It is free. It takes, you know, if you were buying a pill for this, you know the amount of time it would take for you to go to work and make the money to pay for it.
You could just sit there for free and just meditate and get back to yourself. Sex will be much better that way. So this is uncle Bob, your sexual performance advisor telling you, ladies, go ahead and meditate. Fellas, encourage the ladies to meditate, meditate with them. This is going to be a great thing. You’ll both be present for the best sex of your life. Thanks for joining us here. FlyZones, relationships, health and sexual performance podcast.